When we are triggered, our limbic system (the reptilian brain) is activated and we find ourselves thrown into a 'fight, flight or freeze' response. Simultaneously we lose access to our pre-frontal cortex so our ability to think logically, speak calmly and make decisions for the common good (ie. all parties in the relationship) is negatively affected. When the limbic brain is in a state of high-arousal, the only message it transmits is 'defend or die'. Self-preservation is the limbic brain's only goal. This comes at a cost to our relationships because when we are constantly defending ourselves, we are making the other person wrong. It makes sense then that being triggered can be corrosive on relationships.
Neurofeedback slowly unclenches the central nervous system so that our habitual reactivity becomes less and less intense — until one day we may even notice that things that used to trigger us, no longer do so at all. The neurofeedback process is effortless: lie back and relax and enjoy the music while the feedback teaches the brain to become calm. And for those who hate dredging up painful past events, you don't even have to talk because the healing happens beneath the conscious mind.
Training the brain with neurofeedback makes our life bigger. As our fear falls away with continued training, participating in healthy relationships becomes easier and communicating in a kinder, more open-hearted way takes less effort. We feel more able to connect with others in a more skilful way. In addition, with greater calm, the brain expends a lot less energy so it doesn’t tax us so much to be around people. If you are a survivor of trauma or you suffer from anxiety, you may be used to needing a lot of recovery time after you have been social. With enough neurofeedback, your brain will be more robust so the time you need to spend in isolation will likely decrease.